My cousin had a baby on Thursday! Happy Day!!! Beautiful baby Kenli was born a perfect 7 lbs and 20 inches. She is beautiful.
Anways, when I called to talk to my cousin, she was not doing so hot at all. I did not have a c-section, so I was kind of lost. I wanted to bring her goodies, but really didn't have a clue as to what would be helpful or comforting. I searched around and also couldn't find any ideas, so here I am to inform you, if you're ever in this rut... or maybe I'm just clueless and you can all figure it out ;)
Here's A List:
- Her favorite snack
-Premade food* especially when they get home
-super low rise comfy BUT CUTE pants (not to irritate stitches)
-a flowy CUTE shirt
-A magazine or some sort of reading material (keep in mind, don't buy her "Sexiest Bikinis of the Summer" in Cosmo or something, remember they just had a baby!)
-A nice chapstick
-Brush Ups or Listerine Strips for when company comes and they can't make it to the bathroom in time to freshen up
-A cute head band, because nobody wants to do their hair
-Clip on hand sanitizer
-Cute sandals or slippers
-A listening, non judgmental ear... keep in mind how emotional we can get, especially at a time like this!
-A diaper changing offering
-Any travel side lotion, moisturizer or a nice shampoo for the hospital
-A date for their other children (if any) Nobody wants to worry about their other children in recovery!
-Tums, if their doctors allow
-A nice, loving card
I think more than physical things, our friends, sisters, cousins, daughters, need our support more than anything. It's a super emotional time, and can be lonely if Dad has to go back to work or whatever the situation may be. Remember they're in the hospital for at least 5 days! If they have other children, don't let them stress over the kids! Take the other children to do something.
When it's home time, they're still not fully recovered. Prepared foods that are truly yummy and only require a microwave are perfect. Maybe a plastic chair for her shower if she doesn't have anything to rest on. Hang out with baby so she can go upstairs and nap. Don't ask to leave with the baby and take the baby somewhere. It might not be comfortable and you don't want to put her in an odd situation. DO NOT let her entertain you, they need to rest. Us women always have to put on our happy face and be good hosts. Don't let her! Give her a fresh pedi while baby naps. Anything you do, but first and foremost, be there for support! Hope this helps.. but again, I might just be the only silly one who didn't know what to do or get! Ha!
Anything that I missed? Did you have a c-section? Any requests for us super supportive friends and family?